JimmyBiscuit 2021-10-06 21:46:14

I see past your rage. I see the person I love inside you. I see you.

I can’t help but think the part about sharing your problems and getting no answers is kinda about me?
I know I don’t have all the answer to everything and I wish I could because it just hurts me when I don’t have any idea of what to say, I try, I try because I love you more than anything in the world.

Idk if I’m rambling or not, I hope it makes sense. I love you

DrunkGecko 2021-10-06 21:55:32

@JimmyBiscuit i sent this entire rant to my mom and she responded exactly how i expected. Telling me to fix whatever the problem is without being able to tell me where to start. If i dont like something i aim to change it. But if i have no idea how to begin, it's going to be difficult to change something.

JimmyBiscuit 2021-10-06 22:00:21

@DrunkGecko that's just horrible, thats like telling a depressed person to just stop being sad.

if they really cared they wouldn't make those generic ass responses.

jthrash 2021-10-06 22:36:58

Was it perhaps some nosey customer that told you to go off the medication? At the store I worked at, I had a lot of older “Facebook PhDs” giving me all this unsolicited and oftentimes cynical advice to me about everything from dating to voting to even how to be as “fit” as them (even when they are 300+ lbs heavier than me and need me to help them into and out of an electric cart). Same goes for a lot of older co-workers who clearly want to retire.

I’m afraid retail seems to bring out the absolute worst in everyone for some reason—I used to believe I lived in a “safe” neighborhood before I worked in the nearby grocery store, and I’m sure I’ll have to suffer this wake-up call again now that I need to make a steady income outside of art again. Obviously I can’t be of much help either, since I only know you as the person who helped me get into the Art Portal, but your experience working minimum-wage is hardly “abnormal,” at least, and anyone who manages to come home from a retail job without being affected by all the miserable people in your area trying to make you even more miserable than them is likely a sociopath.

jthrash 2021-10-06 22:50:09

@jthrash @DrunkGecko Oh. That seems a bit inappropriate for a manager to suggest to a worker, from a stranger’s perspective, but maybe my store was more strict about not talking about personal things like medication.

Guidodinho 2021-10-07 04:40:53

Kinda sounds like people are treating you like that annoyingly optimistic guy from Monty Python's Life of Brian: while you're hanging on a cross in totall agony, that happy-go-lucky idiot is hanging next to you, singing 'always look on the bright side of life', resulting in adding insult to injury most of the times.

I like to think I've been on both sides of those kinds of conversations. And for a long-ass time, I hated the fact that people use 'how are you?' as a greeting. Like, why even ask how you're doing if you're not gonna be helpfull after getting a negative awnser!? Eventually, I realised, that questiony greeting is not meant to be helpfull to you, but to help themselves. So they know with how misserable of a person they will have to deal with for the rest of their work-day.
I also came to the conclusion, that if you'd like people to tell you something helpfull, informing them if your situation, will often result in not getting any usefull advice besides the annoying:'just cheer up'. Well intended words, but useless and frankly, usually makes you feel worse off.

What I'd like to do is getting other people to tell some of their misserable experiences, and see if there are some nuggets of wisdom to be found in there to use for myself. Most often, there isn't, or I can't see it, but at the very least, I've distracted myself from my own missery with their sad parts of their own shitty parts of their lives.

Ya know what they say: 'missery loves company'.